Last night was my mom’s birthday and I for the first time pulled off a surprise party. I had my aunts and grandparents and great grandmother waiting at the restaurant for her. Tyler’s baseball practice ran late so as usual Taylor fashion we were 2 min. late. I felt but as soon as we go there it was so fun. I really enjoy my family. Don’t get me wrong we have our issues but at this time for that hour we were just hanging out and celebrating with my mom. I went home before we had to leave and my mom was all dressed up just hanging out and waiting for me and as soon as I walked in the house she said she wished she had raised us differently. I wasn’t sure exactly what she meant by that so I said “Are you disappointed or something?” and she said “No. I just wish I wouldn’t have raised yall to be so independent and I wish you would call me for things more.” I know she is lonely sometimes and would like to feel more needed by us. My mom when we were kids would make us call the doctor and look up the number she would have us do little things on our own that way we could learn to be self sufficient. I was like yea I guess your right I mean you don’t even know all my doctors and that made her a little sad. She wants us to call her and need her and she wants us all to move back home. I know sometimes my parents joke around about Tanner and I leaving the house but now she really wants us back home. She pleaded with me to move home and I could come and go as I pleased and they wouldn’t bother me. I finally changed the subject and said omg I really need to do laundry and she quickly chimed in and said “I will do it just bring it over here.” I am getting a little upset writing this because I never realized until recently how nurturing my mom can be. Growing up it was a little more tough love and now I am seeing her soft side. I don’t know what to do about moving back for a month or two. It would be a great way to save money and make her happy but I love living alone.
posted by Taylor at 3:45 AM
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DO IT! Move back home and save some money for awhile. You are so young! You have the rest of your life to live alone! While youre at home, the money that you would have spent on rent and utilities can be used to travel around the world, see things, experience new things without having to worry about what bills are due! I wish I would have stayed home and experienced life to the fullest instead of moving out at 18 and working to live!
It's funny you bring up how your mom raised you to be self-sufficient. I always did the same thing with my daughter and still do with my son. My daughter graduated from high school last year. Even when I told her she could continue living with us since she was going to college in our area, she decided to move out and live with a friend. She got sick a last week and I didn't even know it until the doctor's office called to remind her of her follow up visit today. I guess she didn't change her personal info. It was sad for me, but I was proud at the same time that she handled getting the appt like a grown up. Even though your mom misses you, it is best that you remain on your own. You never feel the same when you go back--it's awkward. I know because I did it. Even though she says they will let you come and go as you please, there are some things you just don't want your mom to know.
honey, your run on sentences give me a splitting headache. trying to read this is just horrid.
I agree, do it. Move back just for awhile, just to make your mom happy and if things don't work out just move out. I say this because me and my mother have always had a close relationship (we're a real traditional mexican family). And I know how much it would hurt her if I moved out.
I am 26 and have gone in and out of my moms house a few times since I was 19. If your mom is willing to give you the freedom you need then go for it. I thought it would be hard becasue I LOVE living alone but when I got back home it was kinda nice and it helped my relationship with my mom. She is my best friend and it was nice to know that it made her happy having her around and I saved a boat load of money and had the chance to decide what to do from there and get advice from her and this time was even better because she treated me like an adult. GO FOR IT!!! if it dosent work you can move out but you might just find that it can help you both.
Listen...
I am going to try and make this as brief as possible without giving you my life story. I have a twin sister that is my EVERYTHING. I married a great guy this past November...a guy who I have dated through college, for over 5 years. One thing that has really hit me hard is 'leaving' Rachel (my sis). We lived in Downtown-Charleston, SC before I got married, then it was off to live with my husband. So Rachel moved back home with the 'RENTS...to save money and whatever else. She is really wanting to move out and live on her own again. I cannot express to her to just stay at home and take in all the advantages. I will be 24 yrs old in a few months and it is JUST now hitting me that no matter what I decide in life...it will have to be a descision made by both my husband and myself. You (and Rachel) need to do ALL that you can do now...while you can do it. I don't regret getting married so young...but I do regret not thinking outside of the box. Thankfully Chris (husband) knows that Rachel plays a huge role in my life and that I will be taking trips and going to concerts...and all that with her. As I do with him. You are such a sweetheart on the show and I cannot tell you how much I truly relate to you. You are smart...you need to travel, go live in a big city...travel with friends...go out of the country...and live life to the ABSOLUTE fullest. Always be you because that is what everyone loves. This life is ALL about you...it sounds selfish but it is TRUE!
~Rebecca
Don't move back home. Make more time to visit your mom and call her.
I moved back home to live with my parents for 3 months after living on my own for 4 years. It was really nice to have my mom "baby" me, because goodness knows I have enough responsibilities now. I would love to move back in with my parents now, but I don't think it would work well with my husband and 2 kids =-)
I would start looking for another place to live and lay the ground work with your mom that it is only temporary until your new place is "ready" (that way she will not be hurt when you leave!). She may butt in a little in your life - but that is what moms are for! Save some money, allow your mom to pamper you and find an awesome place to live without the rush!
Good luck - I think you are awesome and will be a great success in whatever you do!
it's really sad that you can't see that side of your parents when you live with them growing up. when you move out and get your own family (i'm 29 w/ 2 kids) you realize so much about them and what they went thru for you and how much they love you. i say move back for a couple of months. there will be a time when you won't have that oppurtunity to spend with her again. take it while you can. what's more important, being alone for a couple months or getting closer to your mother?
I SO THINK YOU SHOULD MOVE BACK HOME TAYLOR! YOU WOULD BE ABLE TO SAVE SOME MONEY! =) I USED TO HAVE MY OWN APARTMENT AND I MOVED BACK IN WITH MY MOM CUZ SHE BEGGED ME TOO AND ITS NOT THAT BAD. I'M GONNA BE GETTING MY OWN PLACE SOON. BUT ITS NICE NOT HAVING BILLS AND JUST BEING ABLE TO HELP OUT A LITTLE BIT HERE AND THERE. YOU KNOW? BUT ANYWAYS... I THINK IT WOULD BE GREAT!!
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